For many of us, this saying brings another level of grief, and a slap in the face for the reality we may be facing in our lives. Some of us would have been gearing up to introduce a new addition to the family in the coming months, others come to special anniversaries, and some continue to battle the difficulties of trying to fall pregnant after a loss. Whatever it might be, If you have been struggling with those around you who are celebrating the New Year, and the new possibilities with excitement, know that you are not alone.
So then, how do you get through this and find the hope and life back that can seem so distant and hidden. There is no one simple answer, but if I have learnt anything in my journey of grief it starts with one small step in front of the other. Sometimes that in itself is all that one can do, and each day one more step, and eventually you will find yourself walking again, and perhaps even with a stride in your step and opening yourself to the beauty that surrounds us. You might find there are days still where you find yourself hitting the wall and struggling with the ups and downs. There may be anniversaries, birth announcements, or milestones that you come to through this year that feel like a mountain to climb. When it feels like you can’t keep on walking, remember there is many here to lean on, to listen to you, and to share this journey so that one day you will find yourself again experiencing life, and embracing these same opportunities.
Our lives will forever be changed because of the impact that our angels have had on us. I continue to be amazed that such a small little baby can leave such a huge footprint on our lives, and continue to strengthen us in character and capacity. I know we don’t often feel strong, and in fact there are days where it feels more like we are drowning than we are swimming, but I have faith that through these experiences we will find hope and peace again. Perhaps a new version of the ones we had before our precious angels.
My hope for us all is that 2012 will bring much joy and healing as we continue on this journey together. Please remember that TLC support is available to you in a number of ways including telephone and email counselling. Our support is here for you no matter how long it has been since your baby has died, or if you are trying to conceive, are pregnant after a loss, or now navigating the journey of parenting a child after a loss. TLC’s support continues to be here for you at whatever stage you are at. You can contact us on 1800 824 240 or support@teddyloveclub.org.au.
Robyn McKinnon – TLC Bereavement Counsellor. In loving memory of ~Adam~
